Just about everyone has been to the grocery store and seen a parent that is struggling with a child throwing a tantrum at the check out line. You may be thinking, “I am so glad that isn’t my child”. Here are some great tips to deal with such difficult situations.
What would you do if you were that parent? Every kid will throw a tantrum now and again. How do you react if you are that parent? Here are some tips that will help you when you are that parent.
Dealing With Difficult children: Be Prepared To Stand Your Ground
In order to prevent embarrassing public outbursts, you’ll want to make sure that your child knows the consequences for such a behavior, even at home.
Tantrums are not acceptable. Example, you tell your child that they can only have one cookie, they want another. You must not give them another. Draw the boundary, let them know that you will stand your ground. No more cookies until after dinner. Let them know that even throwing a tantrum will not get them that cookie. Do not give in. Do not give the child that second cookie. Giving your child that cookie will show them that they can throw a tantrum or manipulate you and they will win. This is some good advice on how to stop toddler temper tantrums at home
When you give in to the tantrum you are reinforcing the behavior. They know that when you give in they win. No matter how loud they scream, do not give in. This is why they do such things in public, because they know that if they scream loud enough and long enough, they will win and get what they want.
Many parents feel terrible when their child cries. If they throw a fit because they do not want to go to bed, let them cry, of course, first make sure they are not hurt, hungry or thirsty before you let it go on. If you allow one more book, one more drink etc. They will learn that they can manipulate the situation.
Parents generally give in when the child throws a tantrum in public to avoid the public embarrassment.
Many parents feel horrible for not giving their children everything that they want. Keep in mind that setting appropriate boundaries teaches the child that they can’t get everything that they want in life. Do you want a spoiled bratty child, or one that will be sweet and kind? If you want the latter, then do not feel badly about not giving in to their every whim.
Dealing With Difficult children: Give Them Their Own Space
There are some kids, that when throwing tantrums will go into a complete melt down. If your child is like this, give them space. Give them space, breathing room and time to calm down.
If you try to control the situation at this point you will likely make it worse. After they calm down, it is okay to approach them and tell them, at eye level, that this is not acceptable. It is very important to be at eye level and look them in the eye.
Dealing With Difficult children: Give Them Options
I love this little power tool. It always works like a charm. Even with the youngest toddler. When it is time to do something like put on a jacket or tie shoes, give them choices. You can go outside if you put on your jacket. This puts the ball into their court. If they cooperate, they can go outside. If they do not, they can’t go outside. Simple. You can also ask if they wish to put the jacket on, or if they need help. Either way, they realize that it is their choice and their consequence.
When you put the child in control, they feel a freedom to make a choice and do the right thing. So next time you put them to bed ask them, “Do you want to go to bed like a big boy or girl? Or do you need my help?”. It is amazing that they feel this new freedom and it avoids a tantrum.
The next time you ask the question they are much more likely to remember the last time and do it on their own. This trick works time and again. When you offer two choices, and one is better than the other, the child decided their own consequence and will generally make the right choice.
Parenting difficult children is never an easy task for parents. Keeping these ideas in mind will go far in avoiding those tantrums. Allowing the child to make their own choice can alleviate many tantrums and give parents room to breath. It puts the child in charge of the consequence and parenting can become a breeze. Children love to please.
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